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Tamara Doerksen

What people remember long after the work is done

Published about 2 months ago • 1 min read

The Legacy of How You Show Up

This week, I had the privilege of attending the retirement celebration of my dear friend Sukh Nidhan, who is retiring after an extraordinary 35-year career with the City of Toronto. While I’ve known Sukh Nidhan personally for years, this was the first time I experienced her through the eyes of her colleagues and team—people she worked alongside, led, and supported in the demanding, high-stakes world of labour relations. What struck me most wasn’t just the length or significance of her career, but how people spoke about her: the calm presence she brought into tense spaces, the care and attention she offered her team, her unwavering work ethic, and above all, her integrity, authenticity, and character. It didn’t surprise me at all—because she is the same human everywhere she shows up.

Again and again, speaker after speaker returned to the same truth: people don’t just remember the outcomes of negotiations or the titles held—they remember how you made them feel. They remember who you were under pressure. They remember your steadiness, your kindness, your fairness, and the example you set simply by being yourself.

Sukh Nidhan's career is also a beautiful example of a multi-path life. Alongside an intense and often high-stress professional role, she intentionally built wellness practices and passions that nourished her beyond her job description. Because of that, retirement doesn’t represent an ending—it’s an opening. A widening of space to continue growing, contributing, and living fully on her own terms.

Her story is a powerful reminder: how we show up matters. Consistency of character matters. When you lead with integrity and authenticity, it transcends roles, organizations, and environments. It travels with you. It leaves an imprint.

Whether in our professional lives or personal ones, we are always teaching—through our presence, our energy, and our choices. May we each strive to be the kind of person people remember not just for what we achieved, but for who we were along the way.

In celebration of endings that become beginnings,

Tamara

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Tamara Doerksen

Multipath leader helping people live with purpose, courage, and clarity.

I’m here for the big-hearted dreamers building beautifully multi-passionate lives. As co-host of the Rooted in Purpose podcast and a Purpose Guide, I share real stories, honest conversation, and practical tools to help you create a career—and a life—that feels like all of you.

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