After you've done everything you can


The Courage to Surrender

Surrender.

It's an easy word to write in the sand, but far more difficult to practice when you've always had a plan.

Today I find myself in a place where this is my challenge. Not something I need to force myself to do, but something I need to learn.

I've laid the groundwork. I've sown the right seeds. I've had the conversations that mattered and led with humility, honesty, and clarity. The people making those decisions know where I believe I'm being called, and they understand the skills and strengths that equip me for that work. I've followed up thoughtfully, continued contributing meaningful work, and intentionally invested in relationships. I've been learning, growing, and becoming more visible in the spaces where I feel called to serve.

In other words, I've done everything I know to do.

Now comes the part that doesn't come naturally to me.

Surrender.

Not surrender in the sense of giving up or becoming passive. Quite the opposite. I'll continue doing the work. I'll keep learning, building relationships, showing up with excellence, and saying yes to opportunities that stretch me. But I've come to realize that there is a difference between doing everything within my control and trying to control the outcome.

As I sat at the beach this week looking at the word Surrender written in the sand, I realized that this may be the lesson I'm meant to learn right now. To trust that I'm being guided toward something far greater than anything I could orchestrate on my own. To believe that I am exactly where I need to be, even if I can't yet see where the path leads.

Maybe your circumstances look completely different from mine. Perhaps you're waiting for healing, praying for a relationship to be restored, hoping for a new opportunity, navigating uncertainty, or wondering what comes next. Whatever your situation, perhaps you've also reached the place where you've done everything you know to do.

If that's where you are, maybe the next step isn't doing more. Maybe it's trusting more.

Where in your life are you trying to control the outcome? What might happen if you loosened your grip just a little? Not because you've stopped caring, but because you've chosen to trust that something good can still unfold, even if it doesn't happen according to your plan.

What if the universe has something in store for you that is greater than anything you could have imagined for yourself?

What if?

Until next Sunday,

Tamara

20 Allister Avenue, Toronto, ON M1M3K9
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Tamara Doerksen

I believe purpose isn't something you find once. It's something you continue to follow. Each week I share personal stories, honest reflections, and practical insights to help you navigate change, pursue meaningful work, and create a life that feels aligned with who you are. I'm also the co-host of the Rooted in Purpose with Jess + Tamara podcast.

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