What we do next

No matter how experienced we are, there will be times when we react more strongly than we intended or handle something differently than we would have liked. There isn’t a point where we become so seasoned that we stop getting things wrong from time to time. We’re human.

A little distance can give us a much clearer view of a situation. We may recognize what we could have done differently, something we need to own or make right, or simply how we want to handle a similar situation the next time.

Knowing when to let something go is important too. Taking accountability doesn’t mean carrying a moment around indefinitely or replaying it over and over. Reflection is useful when there’s something more to learn, but at some point we’ve learned what we can. We can acknowledge that we would have handled something differently and leave it where it belongs: in the past.

I’m not sure becoming more seasoned means getting things right more often as much as it means becoming better at recognizing when we haven’t, learning from it, and understanding that one moment doesn’t need to become more than it was.

We’re all going to have moments we wish we could do over. We can’t change them, but we can decide what we do next.

With grace,

Tamara

Creating Space Update

There wasn’t much physical decluttering this week because I was barely home. But I realized there are other things we can clear out too. We can carry conversations we keep replaying, things we wish we’d said differently, and moments we’d handle differently if we had another chance.

For me, creating space this week is about knowing when I’ve taken what I need from something and can stop carrying the rest.